Losing a pet is a heartbreaking experience. For many, their pet was not “just an animal” but a beloved family member, constant companion, and source of unconditional love. When a friend or loved one is grieving the loss of a pet, knowing what to say and do can be difficult—you want to help, but you don’t want to say the wrong thing.
If you’re unsure how to support a grieving pet owner, this guide will help you navigate this delicate time with compassion, kindness, and understanding.
Why Pet Loss is Often Misunderstood
One of the hardest parts of losing a pet is that society doesn’t always acknowledge pet grief as “real” grief. While there are sympathy cards, funerals, and bereavement leave for human loss, pet owners often feel like they have to suffer in silence.
What NOT to Say to a Grieving Pet Owner
Even when coming from a place of kindness, some common phrases can feel dismissive or hurtful. Here are a few things to avoid saying when supporting a grieving friend:
“It was just a pet.” Their pet was a cherished member of their family—this kind of statement invalidates their grief.
“At least they lived a long life.” Even if true, it doesn’t take away the pain of the loss.
“You can always get another one.” A pet isn’t replaceable. They had a unique bond with their owner.
“I know exactly how you feel.” Even if you’ve lost a pet before, everyone’s grief is different.
“Time will heal it.” While grief does change over time, hearing this too soon can feel dismissive.
What to Say Instead
Here are some thoughtful, supportive phrases that acknowledge their loss and let them know you care:
“I’m so sorry for your loss. [Pet’s Name] was such a beautiful soul.”
“I know how much [Pet’s Name] meant to you. I’m here if you need support.”
“I can’t imagine how hard this is for you. If you feel like talking, I’d love to hear some of your favourite memories of [Pet’s Name].”
“Take all the time you need to grieve. [Pet’s Name] was truly special.”
“I’m here to support you in any way I can.”
Simple, heartfelt words can mean the world when someone is grieving.
Thoughtful Ways to Show Support
Sometimes, actions speak louder than words. Here are meaningful ways to support a grieving pet owner:
1. Send a Sympathy Card or Thoughtful Gift
A handwritten note, pet loss sympathy card, or small memorial gift (such as a framed photo, candle, or paw print keepsake) can be a comforting gesture.
2. Be a Listening Ear
Grief can feel isolating. Let them share their memories, cry if needed, or simply talk about their feelings—without rushing them to “move on.”
3. Help with Practical Tasks
If they have other pets, offer to help with walks or feeding. If they need a distraction, invite them for a coffee or casual outing. Small acts of kindness can lighten their emotional load.
4. Honour Their Pet’s Memory Together
Suggest creating a tribute in honour of their pet—a photo album, planting a tree, or lighting a candle in their pet’s memory.
5. Give Them Space, But Check In
Everyone grieves differently. Some may need company, while others may want solitude. Respect their space, but check in occasionally to let them know you’re thinking of them.
Helping Them Find Grief Resources
If your friend is struggling, pet grief support resources can help. You might suggest:
Pet loss support groups (online or in-person) – Connecting with others can be incredibly healing.
Pet memorial websites – Many platforms allow grieving owners to share photos and memories.
Books about pet loss – Gifting a book about grieving a pet can offer comfort.
Your Support Matters More Than You Know
Grieving the loss of a pet is a deeply personal and emotional journey. By showing up with kindness, patience, and empathy, you can help your friend feel less alone in their grief.
Have you ever supported a friend through pet loss? What helped the most? Share your thoughts in the comments. ❤️